Monthly Archives: July 2011

today i went with my mum dad and my two sons to do some shopping and it was going so well then we went to go get some shoes for my sons and hurdel number one came. An hour and a half waiting for my sons to get there feet measured i was very proud of my two little dudes waiting nicely not making a big fuss about it all or any thing just waited nicely and was very happy when it was oldest ones turn as he had biggest smile you ever did see and and loved being fussed over by the lady. And loved being able to chose his shoes . And when came to getting little ones feet measured he was not happy about having his feet held and mesured and when it was done we had hard time finding a style he could wear. And of course his brouther insisted on picking style and chose some so we survied that stressed grandad but two happy children then had lovely lunch and thought ok this is getting better then nightmare happend.

i decided to go into sports direct in reading now there should been no problem with this and normally would not. And when we got up to children s department it was all looking good so i thought great i get alot of what i wanted and was finding most then the moment that made are day little less happy happened.

The fire alram went of and the staff were running around unaware of what to do then we got to exit to find they had no way to get me out.

so after about ten mins of the staff not knowing what to do or were to go. Then saying for someone to go with my boys down stairs so i sent my dad down with the two boys. me and mum were up stairs waiting and knowing i would have one upset 5 year old and one confused baby. But one very brave little man who did not get scared when the staff did get scared. But rest of the day he was very quite and made it very hard to do any thing. How a store got away with this i do not know. My worst nightmare happened as i was left upstairs not knowing if my boys were ok and was not even told it was a practice. Just totally left in the dark on what was going on this really upset me as i was worried about how my boys were. Ok in the end it was all fine and the boys were ok but no one should be put throw that just for a fire practice.


pressure and disconnection in the community

An baby first reflex is to grab a hand to startle when shocked among other reflexes. Also to cry when they have a need that has not been meet or they are in pain or even lonely. there has also been noted that babys tend to turn more to a females voice then males this is belived to be a biological animal reflex which not been 100 percent proven as yet. a childs first instict at birth is to grab and hold tight and most mums is to hold tightly to there baby and promise them the world. I still want to hold on tightly to my son who is five and not let him go into the scary world. It hard when they start school and you have to intrust your child to someone you never meet dont know them and yet the most amazing thing in your life you are handing to them and hope they do no harm to it.  But there is a growing amount of women that have killed there children compared to years gone by.

The rise of post natal depression and puerperal psychosis is this to blame and the pressure of society and disconnected of family support we see more and more of lately. In the past children were raised among the community  and in the family the whole family helped out. yes it did have its down sides single parents were shunned if child was born out of wedlock or teenage mum. But in some ways this was good as meant men had to step up and be a dad and young girls were less likely to get pregnant at school age. But it also meant that there was always someone there to notice if you needed help and women would feel less disconnected from the world. At the moment i see so many women that when out and about are by them self when i talk to people about families often here mine don’t live near or i don’t talk to mine. We need to realize that when we bring children in to this world there not just part of us.They apart of are family And A part of the community . I believe in my heart this disconnection is part of the reason for the rise of post natal depression.  Also gives the older generation a purpose as less face it how many times do you see an old lady or man just looking lonely and lost. And so many of the older generation have a huge amount of information and tips on raising children yes some of which we cant use but some we can. And having them around also teach your children respect for elderly. And stops them feeling unwanted and forgotten.